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Much of what seems so real in this physical dimension is not the entire Truth of who we are and/or what we can do. Over the last decade, I have allowed myself to both explore and expand beyond the physical, mental and emotional boundaries I thought were rigidly in place in this "reality". What I found was an aspect of Self that I had forgotten was there. I offer these wonderings and wanderings as an invitation to see beyond "what meets the eye", MRI and "why can't I?" in your life!

Read, ponder, explore the depths of yourself. Although our eyes focus outward, we are primarily here to see and change ourselves. If the words assist, there is a link for gratitude giving. If you want to go deeper in your healing and release more quickly, let's work together. These writings are not short ... but the world is full of insightful one-liners which haven't managed to fully communicate to and shift heart and soul. I remain ever hopeful ... Much love, Kristi

Monday, February 4, 2019

Four Ways of Finding and Connecting with Forgiveness

Two hands in red gloves forming a heart-shape with "Forgiveness" in the heart.

Where Does Forgiveness Come From?

Forgiveness reigns within the heart. It's not something we have to create, it's already there. We all have hearts, so forgiveness should be easy. Why is it so hard for many of us to forgive?

As children, we knew how to forgive and live from our heart space. Perhaps at some point it became too painful? Or, maybe once we got into a “mainstream school system” we learned to focus on the mind more than the heart?

I believe we experience more pain in this head-space, living separated from our heart-based selves. We tend to push pain out, away from ourselves. This is how we hurt one another. It is a cycle that can create a disparity between truth and Truth.
We can end up feeling alone and separated, despite our inherent connection to one another and all life!

The Score Card

When we live in our minds, we can tend to be much more analytical and data-driven. For many, life becomes a type of virtual score card, and we’re eager to record everything that anyone has ever done to us. As a result, many people can more easily pull up the “bad” memories than the “good”. With this much data in hand as ammunition, it can be really hard to shift gears, wipe the slate, and go to a space of love and forgiveness.

Yet doing exactly that is the way to LIVE! Otherwise, focusing on the negative creates a static or dis-ease within our bodies. The negative, denser energy is in disharmony with our true nature of Love and Lightness. The more we are separated from knowing ourselves and others as Love, the more pain we are in ... mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Disease takes root in this environment of dis-ease.

Understand that many times the people you judge as “mean” are in deep pain within themselves. We need more compassion and empathy in our world to heal this great divide.

How do we get back to heart-based living, so that we can forgive? When I began shifting from mind-based focus to heart-based focus, I had no idea how to “get to my heart space”. I’ve created an info-guide and MP3 "4 Simple Steps for Connecting with Your Heart-Centered Inner Peace", which is available as a bonus for sign-up on my blog email list. It has helped many other people shift and reconnect within.

As we begin to understand our connection to one another and to something larger (the breath that breathes our bodies), we can begin to understand we’re not just physical bodies.

Who IS In The "Wrong"?

I’m sure you’ve heard "you only have one life to live" as justification for acts of courage and those of malicious intent. We have been conditioned/programmed to believe we are JUST these bodies. We embrace our lineage, race, heritage, as dictated by these bodies. Yet we are so much more than this identity and DNA we currently "wear".

How can I be sure? I have waking memories of other lives I have lived … flashbacks beyond déjà vu. One lifetime as a tribal medicine man offers challenges and opportunities that are 180 degrees from this one. It makes sense to me that my Eternal Self, on a quest for self mastery, would set things up with varying parameters in different “realities”.

When/if we see that we are NOT this lifetime, we can begin to understand that ANYTHING someone else has done to us is likely something we have done to another ... perhaps not in this lifetime, but most definitely at some point of consciousness/physicality. It’s a catch 22 of who did what to whom?

We identify with our name and body container, so we think we are separate beings, yet we are part of something bigger. We are like droplets of water within the sea. When we are conscious only of our identity as a droplet, we may not see/feel/realize our connection to the other droplets and even to the sea. When we connect with our identity as the sea, we can still be the droplet, but we also become aware of our connection to every other droplet in, of, and throughout the sea.

The Origin of the Wound

As we CHOOSE to forgive (or do not forgive) another, we also forgive (or do not forgive) ourselves. Forgiveness is ultimately about going into the heart, imagining the point of the creation of the wound (even beyond this current time/space "reality"), seeing it as an expression of pain/not love, and converting it to love or with love. The heart-based approach of seeing any act against us as pain within the other, can allow us to more easily forgive.

Be an observer of the situation as if it is a story you are watching. Imagine you can float up above your awareness of yourself and the other in the situation you are trying to forgive. In this observer view you can be more neutral and will perhaps gain insights you didn't see or even consider before.

If you are here to evolve into a truer expression of yourSelf as Love and Joy and Wellness, what does the forgiveness/lack of forgiveness tell you about yourself?

Self Mastery and Ascension 

What if the entire point of this action, supposedly against you and which you cannot forgive, is there as an opportunity for you to forgive YOURself??? Yet you resist forgiveness so passionately and prolong pain! Holding on to it continues to separate you from knowing yourself as love. Be love by choosing love.

At first forgiving may seem hard. That may indicate you are deep within the trenches of "the story" … from that perspective, forgiveness may not even appear to be a choice!

Yet, responding with love is always a choice because that breath that breathes us comes from LOVE. We responded from LOVE naturally as babies, before we became more and more convinced we are not LOVE and/or love is not “real”.

Forgiveness is one of our Super Powers … the power of love. When we forgive, we give and we receive. This is a yin and yang flow which serves the Highest Good xo

If you continue to feel stuck and would like additional insights or assistance, please consider a reading or Perspective Reboot® clearing and balancing session.

Lovingly,
Kristi

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