Discerning Manipulation and Responding from LOVE 😍

This post got quite a bit of responses on FB. The message expanded, as often happens, into this blog.

Signs of control and manipulation may not be readily apparent to empaths, lightworkers, and souls serving Our Collective by seeing THE GOOD in others and our world. Moreover, those raised within highly dysfunctional households in which love plays out as abuse can lose touch with their own discernment and healthy boundaries. Still others have served as "peace keeper" for so long that our awareness may be clouded. All of these factors can diminish our power, discernment, joy and inner peace!

Despite having reached an age at which I am considered "a senior", I am still learning ... still recovering from a childhood in which my desires, preferences, even my needs were ignored, minimized, ridiculed and even distorted then dictated back to me. Writing and sharing in this way, helps me process, which helps others. Yet again, GOD/Source/Spirit shares "WE are lifting ONE ANOTHER!"

Awareness = The Power of Choice = The Power to Change ...
We are evolving to love, THROUGH LOVE; SELF LOVE is key!

If a friend or relative is putting down another to you, they are likely also talking about you to someone else. Similarly, if they are asking you to be on "their team/side", they likely have other teams which exclude you. This is very manipulative and far from love. When we are unaware of these dynamics, we can end up being blindsided. Remember, the only one we can change is ourSELVES, but often when we change, others in the dance also change.

An important awareness is how DIVISIVE this dynamic is ... it's the opposite of what we are here to create ... UNITY! Once we become aware of it, we can see it at play out in families, friendships, organizations, governments … absolutely anywhere and everywhere there is a beLIEf in competition and WINNING by CLIMBING OVER ANOTHER or gaining at another's loss. The Universe seeks balance across all space/time; choose love!

I received many comments from people that their family member does this. It's important to diffuse our own negative energy around the situation; or we just continue amplifying the negative. When there's that sense that things are UNjust, we can expand our awareness that there is SO MUCH MORE than meets the eye beyond THIS lifetime. There are Karma, next-life lessons, etc. that will address the inequities created here. Claim peace knowing we don't have to act as prosecutor, judge, jury, etc. except within ourselves, our intentions, our behaviors. 

We can walk away with compassion. No matter how aware we are in THIS MOMENT, we have all behaved in ways that weren't in alignment with Love and Light along the way to NOW. As we forgive the other, we forgive ourselves! See that this individual's inner woundings have separated them from LOVE. Real-eyes their behavior is ultimately borne of pain … a sense of lack … a beLIEf that love is in limited supply. The person doing this feels there is not enough love (money, stuff, etc.) for everyone, so they have to horde it AND/OR they get their self-worth externally from others aligning with them. 

Act from love and you will be moving forward."In TIME all Truths will be Known." Do not try to defend yourself to the others who have been manipulated ... they likely lack discernment, too. Ultimately, we cannot show someone what they are not ready to see.

LACK, LOVE IN LIMITED SUPPLY, COMPETITION are programs we are here to SHUT DOWN! Act from the knowing that LOVE IS ABUNDANT. The more we share, the more we create!

Aim to hold love, to keep your spirit light, to breathe out those vibes out into the world ... through you, as you! It's win-win because as we do this, we get to live there! When confronted with this behavior, news reports, manipulation, turn your focus a bit toward the LOVE, compassion and support that are also available in this NOW of YOUR reality. Do not believe everything you see, hear, read. Consciously discern if the "reporting" is coming from expansive LOVE energy or divisive FEAR.

Be wary of the finger-pointer because the one braying most loudly is usually the ASS. Find or create your tribe, even if it means re-defining your sense of “family”, belonging, career, success, getting ahead, alignment. Create from a perspective of inclusion, peace, love because in TRUTH, we are connected and cannot "get ahead" by pushing another behind!

When I see a choice (via The Higher Self/neutral observer) I choose LOVE. In this way, everything left "in my wake" is touched by LOVE. Through this expansion, I have found that The Universe aligns more and better loving relationships, when I walk away from those who would manipulate or try to climb over me. Endings create space for beautiful new beginnings! Let go to move forward.

In service,

Kristi Borst, PhD

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A Conversation with Multi-Dimensional Healer Kristi Borst

[This interview was conducted and published by a wellness group in April, 2019. At that time I was a FOUNDING MEMBER. During my tenure, I was thrilled to be cited in their ultimate "BEST HELP" wellness practitioners list! I think I was selected to be interviewed for this feature based upon the significant amount of spiritually-focused and self-help blogs I had written for their site. I've since resigned my membership after personally experiencing lack of integrity in dealing with the organization's primary owner. Today, most of my content has been deleted from their site; but today a Facebook memory somehow guided me to this long-forgotten-to-me interview. I am grateful to share this information with you!. May it  offer insights and clarity on who I AM and what I'm offering. 💗🧡💛💚💙💜🤍 You can read addition information on the ABOUT KRISTI and the Healing Resonance llc Frequently-Asked Questions pages of my site.]

The founder of Healing Resonance LLC with Kristi Borst.

1. Hello Kristi, will you please tell us about yourself?

Hi, everyone. Thank you for the opportunity to share with you today. I am a natural-born quantum mind-body-spirit-emotions healer. My body, voice, energy, aura, and connection to Spirit/Source/God/Love offer a healing resonance which shifts others to their zero-point of inner peace and balance.

As I work with clients, they are able to jump forward to greater levels of joy and wellness. I tend to shy away from labels because for much of my life and like many of us, I was unknowingly living a smaller version of myself than I am here to express.

When I was a toddler, I spontaneously healed a physical wound I’d sustained and was ordered to shut down my abilities. My healing resonance is fundamental to who I am, so for years, I was living only a shadow of myself. For the last ten years, I have been letting go of limitations and stepping out of the boxes I had previously allowed to contain me.

2. Kristi, what is it that inspires you?

What inspires me and brings me joy and gratitude is being in service to the Higher Good. I love showing others they can easily claim a Truer version of themselves. This is because our inherent perfection is typically hiding in plain view.

For many years, I felt self-critical and that just didn’t really fit in. I now understand that I don’t fit in because I am here to be a leader and celebrate what makes me different.

I believe each of us is part of the light of the world. I love empowering others to drop all pretense and just BE their unique selves. We have been told not to be “too full of ourselves” and yet this is exactly what we are here to do; Be ourselves!

3. Will you please tell us what you call yourself and explain what it is that you do?

Although I am trying to release labels, I’ll play along nicely! (laughs). I am the founder of Perspective Reboot® which is a quantum-level energy balancing-clearing-healing process. The process heals childhood trauma, releases stuffed emotion that may be causing physical pain and disease, disengages obsolete programming and self-limiting beliefs, and resets self-healing with the body intelligence and individual body organs.

I am also a minister of The Universal Light, Usui Reiki Master [2023 Mantra Reiki Master Teacher], Spiritual Counselor, and a registered behavioral therapist. Ultimately, I am an eternal being expressing physicality as Kristi Borst, and I’m here to help myself and others reach a truer version of themselves.

4. How exactly does that help someone?

In all aspects of our physical world, thought and planning precede physical creation. Think about your phone, house, even your meals. Someone created a plan and gathered materials prior to creation. This is also true within our bodies.

Physical pain and disease we experience can be the result of something non-physical that’s been at work for a while. I am able to talk to and positively affect physical body parts. I’m also attuned to sensing the traumas, heavy emotions, and self-limiting beliefs which may have created the “soil” in which disease or pain have taken root.

As we release what no longer serves us, the body’s natural intelligence is free to heal. Miracles are seen with energy medicine because of the healer, but more so because the natural body seeks its balance and wellness. Through my Perspective Reboot® integrative energy healing, the person is able to see and seize their own power and learn to create deeper levels of wellness and joy.

5. Why are you so passionate about helping people become empowered and gain more self-mastery?

I believe we each are here to animate a unique aspect of Spirit/Source/God/Love. When we are in pain or unhappy, we are not radiating that Love fully out into our world. As people release that which doesn’t serve them, they also release what doesn’t serve the Highest Good.

I am grateful, humbled, and still amazed at the life-changing results of working with others, sharing my message and artwork, and merely showing up as ME.

6. Did any specific life experience prompt you to follow this path?

Despite that shutting down my abilities disconnected me in part from Source, I was allowed to express and nurture my artistic, creative, and writing abilities. For many years, I served as a graphic artist and marketing agent for small businesses. About ten years ago, my passion switched to obligation. I wondered “what am I going to do for the rest of my life?”

No answer came, so I focused on “what do I like doing in the broadest sense?” This answer came easily; “Helping others!” I focused on that feeling and practiced what I was learning about mindfulness, being present, etc.

In 2011, I was driving down the highway and had a near collision with an American Bald Eagle. He flew up my minivan windshield, obscuring my view for what seemed like seconds but was likely a mere fragment of a second. That encounter seemed to reawaken something in me and set me on a course of rediscovery. Within days, I saw an ad for a Reiki class and signed up. Doors opened and my heart opened! [I have recently added distance and in-person REIKI SESSIONS to my offerings!]

I had another significant experience at the end of 2012, while on vacation in Sedona. Synchronicity and Spirit guided me to a homeless veteran, helping to heal and release his guilt and inner pain over the loss of his platoon. I marveled that Grace had brought me from Maine to Sedona, supposed land of the great healers, to assist one who lived there. It was a deeply spiritual experience on many levels. Shortly thereafter my reawakening abilities came more fully back “online.”

7. How long have you been doing this?

Shortly after returning from Sedona, I became more aware when I could help and began assisting those who would take my offer to assist. In March 2013, I opened Healing Resonance LLC with Kristi Borst. For the last six years, I have been offering private, couple’s and group healing work in-person in southern Maine and by Skype or phone worldwide.

In 2015, synchronicity unfolded, and I held my first international Self-Empowerment and Awakening workshop as part of a group trip to Machu Picchu, Peru. That trip was amazing, not only for the experiences within the workshop. Arriving at and walking around Machu Picchu ignited a number of waking memories of this beautiful place as “my home.”

8. Will you share a story of how you have made a difference in someone’s life?

In 2015, I was a guest on Expanding Awareness radio out of Boston. I spoke about our ability to heal past-present-and-future. A woman heard me on the show and scheduled a session with me. She had lived through some unspeakable abuse as a child. Years of therapy hadn’t helped, and she was surviving, but not thriving.

We had a one-hour session by phone. It was a significant Perspective Reboot®! A few months later, she wrote, telling me she was planning her first vacation ever. Although she had never felt suicidal, prior to our session she had awoken each day praying it would be her last. She’d never planned a vacation because she couldn’t bear the thought of being alive so far into the future. She even wrote a song for Healing Resonance with Kristi Borst.

Additional examples of physical healing are shared on my site and in TESTIMONIALS.

9. What’s next on the horizon for you?

I have recently added a second location in greater Boston, for in-person Perspective Reboot® sessions and Spiritual Guidance and Empowerment Readings. While I am able to help people all over the world by phone, many people do prefer to work in person.

I really want to get into podcasting, sharing my empowerment healing messages.

10. Thank you so much for sharing today, Kristi! Do you have any final thoughts?

We have been sold the story that free will is a curse on humanity; it is actually one of our Super Powers. We have the power to choose our reality. On some level, happiness is always a choice. Just as there is always something to be upset about, there are likely many more things to be happy about.

Until we see happiness and wellness as a choice, the choice may as well not exist. Awareness = The Power of Choice = The Power to Change. The bonus is, the more we see and choose love, the more we get to live in a love-filled space of being. See(ze) your power and be that unique aspect of Love that only you can be.

Love,

Kristi Borst, PhD

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Get a signed copy of "This Little Light of Mine", Kristi's chapter in BE THE BEACON
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