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Much of what seems so real in this physical dimension is not the entire Truth of who we are and/or what we can do. Over the last decade, I have allowed myself to both explore and expand beyond the physical, mental and emotional boundaries I thought were rigidly in place in this "reality". What I found was an aspect of Self that I had forgotten was there. I offer these wonderings and wanderings as an invitation to see beyond "what meets the eye", MRI and "why can't I?" in your life!

Read, ponder, explore the depths of yourself. Although our eyes focus outward, we are primarily here to see and change ourselves. If the words assist, there is a link for gratitude giving. If you want to go deeper in your healing and release more quickly, let's work together. These writings are not short ... but the world is full of insightful one-liners which haven't managed to fully communicate to and shift heart and soul. I remain ever hopeful ... Much love, Kristi

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Tuesday, September 22, 2020

7 Tips for Building a Strong Marriage

7 tips for building a strong marriage, kristi borst phd, author and husband at grand canyon

While it’s an accomplishment to achieve a long marriage, there are more measures of success than years alone. My husband, Joe, and I have been married for 40 years, 39 of those years blissfully. Statistics show that many marriages end in the early years, and we most certainly could have been among those as I nearly self-sabotaged this relationship in our fifth year of marriage (more on that later).

Perhaps you’ve heard that 50% of all marriages end in divorce? This statistic was true in 1980 (the year we married) but, since that time, the divorce rate has been on the decline. You’ll find many updated statistics online (interestingly they are largely served up by divorce attorneys). Philip N. Cohen, a sociologist at the University of Maryland College Park, notes that from 2008 to 2018 divorce rates among women fell by 18%. (1)

Our focus and obsession with divorce can ultimately be a large part of the problem. It was for me. I carried the trauma of my parents’ messy divorce and turmoil into my new marriage. If I knew then what I know now as an emotional healer and spiritual counselor, our wedding day and first few years of marriage would have been vastly different.

Self-sabotage, lack of self-awareness, and miscommunication may be the biggest contributors to failed marriages. Fortunately, once we see behaviors that are taking us where we don’t want to go, we suddenly see choices. Awareness = The Power of Choice = The Power to Change!

Here Are 7 Tips for Building A Strong Marriage to Get the Conversation GOING ..

1. Don’t Let Fear of Divorce be Your Focus

Many couples who come to me are fumbling in the space of self-sabotage I knew so well. Each selected the other as their “one,” and yet one or both are too afraid of being dumped to really commit to the relationship. That lack of commitment (expressed through lack of intimacy, vulnerability, confidence, trust, etc.) erodes their connection and undermines the marriage. Your fears take you away from what you want.

2. Co-Create a Fluid Partnership

Part of intimacy and building a strong bond as a couple is sharing what is in your heart, your desires, your fears, your dreams. Realizing we come from a culture that separates acceptable emotion by gender, help each other grow past the lower emotions (competition, anger, jealousy, etc.). Release as many gender-role expectations as you are able. Invite softness into your marriage. Make your relationship a safe place, and guard each other’s heart as if it was sacred. An added bonus is that emotional intimacy and that feeling of safety and trust can build and help sustain physical intimacy.

3. Throw Away the Score Card

When you exchanged vows, you became more than a couple. You became a team. It’s now all for ONE (the team) and ONE for all (both of you). There are no MVP awards. Do things for the other because you know it will make their life easier, make them happy, help them out, do it for love. Actions that jeopardize your health, financial security, fidelity, etc. are never justified by your partner’s “bad behavior” (e.g., He spent $300, so I’m going to spend $400). One-upmanship sabotages the relationship twice as quickly. Same is true with mistakes. Give your partner room to mess up and do-overs. You will find what you look for; so look for what you want, not what you don’t want.

4. See the Relationship with Long-Term Vision

Focus on the success; think about how your actions and behaviors are affecting the “future you” (as a couple). How will increasing your debt or sharing something private with a friend play out? Will your behaviors and choices take you closer to your shared dream or further away? A future-focus gives us the vision to “pick our battles.” This is YOUR partnership. If something’s not a big deal, why make one?

5. Watch Yourself, Question YOUR Motives

Focus on changing yourself and your reactions rather than the other person. What’s going on inside? Are you insecure? Feeling unlovable? Worried financially? Discuss how you’re feeling apart from a specific incident that may have triggered you. Your level of upset may be tied to a trauma from another time or place, yet it greatly affects your partner. When one is feeling vulnerable or needy, that’s something you should be able to express to the other rather than slipping into battle over something that’s not at the heart of the matter.

6. Tend to Your Partner’s Wounds As They Tend To Yours

Advocate for and support one another, especially in those wounded places, rather than poking each other there. Review each of the prior suggestions, and then react with love, within yourself and toward your partner. Communicate. Reach out for support if you cannot find the root of your wound or need help communicating your vulnerabilities to one another. I offer one-to-one sessions to anchor you and couples’ sessions that help bridge gaps.

7. Grow and Evolve Through Life Together

Life’s a dance; we shouldn’t expect to stay in the same place or always have the same interests. Yet, it’s important in a marriage to remember one another as we grow. Sometimes BOTH partners have to stretch beyond their comfort zones to stay connected, seeking equilibrium within the relationship to meet the other in the middle. Communication and commitment are the notes that harmonize this dance.

I entered our marriage, not unlike many other people, damaged from childhood trauma that had crushed belief in myself and a happily-ever-after. I craved security, love, commitment, and yet pushed those things away. I was unconsciously self-sabotaging my (and his) happiness. I am so grateful for Joe’s commitment, support, patience, and compassion.

We celebrated our 10th Anniversary by renewing our vows. I pledged my love, believing in and accepting his vows and his love more completely into my being. Here we stand, 30 years later. I cannot imagine life without him! We’ve shared adventures and the joy of just being together. We’ve created dreams-come-true, particularly our daughters, now our two dearest friends!

Nurturing a long-term, loving marriage makes life’s highs more delicious and its lows more bearable. A foundation cast in love is rock-solid. Knowing the other is always willing to reach back to lift you higher and vice versa repairs any cracks along the way!

Here for you,
Kristi

 

(1)“The Coming Divorce Decline” by Philip N. Cohen on familyinequality.wordpress.com

Friday, May 8, 2020

Chaos Creates Expansion and Room for Reorganization and Balance


crystal grid, seemingly in disarray
There is expansion, symmetry, balance, love, light even amid what some might call "chaos" or "a crisis". There is no need to "rush in to fix things"! Our first reaction will likely not come from a place of love; we may respond with fear and finger pointing.

But we are each/all co-creating what we see, what we experience, what we feel! We cannot change that creation until we see all of its sides in 3D. We have to understand that what benefits only a few, likely hurts many. If, individually, we want a world that is better for us, we have to create a world that is better for all.

Love thy neighbor as you love thyself because when we hurt another, we ultimately hurt ourselves, We may not see that in this moment, but it will follow us through all time/space ... in Time all Truths will be Known.

Yes, things that have been hidden from view (and/or that we have consciously and unconsciously avoided seeing) are coming to our attention. We must look, not with scorn or finger-pointing, but with compassion for ourselves and "the other". We cannot fear or hate the darkness because seeing the darkness actually allows for amplification of the Light.

Nothing is ever absolute, even though our minds want to label things/people good/bad, right/wrong, etc.

As a young artist I was taught we cannot add a highlight to a painting without some surrounding darkness. That brilliant light just doesn't show up without our awareness of the darkness!

We cannot uplift/heal what we avoid, blame on others, cannot or do not see. We can amplify the light as we face the darkness with love and compassion. Seeing it is part of our evolution toward balance, love, light for all. This is an abundant world, and there is more than enough for everyone! "In God We Trust" was added to our money as a reminder of what is sacred!

Have faith, anchor yourself in love and compassion, and when you get off course, just bring the compass back to center. Be the love and compassion you want to see, first within your own sphere. Suddenly, you get to live amid love and compassion.

Let your light shine forth out into the world, owning your darkness. Avoiding it or hating it just creates more darkness. Flood it with light, love, forgiveness, peace. This is especially true when you see it in others because you'll likely see it in them before you see it in yourSELF.

All is Well and happening for The Highest Good, which always includes each of us individually. đź’— Awareness = The Power of Choice = The Power to Change!

I love you, Kristi

Thursday, March 26, 2020

GO! Fly Free! Life IS Going According To Plan ...

Imagine one thing ... just one moment you've felt REJECTION or LOSS ~ Open your seeing of that moment as your life path's auto correct, meant not to root you, but to shift you ... GO! Fly free! Love, Kristi
There are many times in our lives when situations seem to change beyond our control or even beyond our worst imagining. We may experience this as (1) the loss of a friend, family member, lover, (2) being passed over for a promotion, living arrangement, deeper relationship, (3) having a physical accident and injury, or (4) getting very ill mentally or physically.

Human nature and prevailing Western culture whines "why did this happened TO ME?" Yet our expanded awareness shows us that "this may actually be happening FOR ME!" How can loss and rejection of those we love, jobs that support us, living arrangements that seem to be working be happening FOR YOU, you may ask?

Perhaps rather than being comfortable and safe, or perhaps because of that, these placid life circumstances may not actually be serving your strengths, your higher quest for soul growth, your ability to touch others' lives, your evolution toward unconditional love!

Monday, March 16, 2020

Life Evolving Beyond Fear ~ Return to Center

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"Life Evolving Beyond Fear" ©2020 KristiBorst.com
"Life Evolving Beyond Fear" illustrates our forward-upward
movement, in unity. Rather than being consumed by fear,
we are being offered choices and the power to BE
light, love, trust, compassion, hope
in spite of and above fear!
Hello friends,

I sat down to create an image on 3/10 and "Life Evolving Beyond Fear" emerged. Use it to help identify and release fear and obsolete programming as we ascend toward a new, more global, and empowered consciousness. Other tools and suggestions follow.
As the snake sheds its skin, we can shed what is holding us back
from embodying love, light, compassion, hope, faith, trust!
It is prudent to follow safe hygiene guidelines, but it's best to do so without fear. Fear is an anti-building block within own auto-immune systems, within our relationships and within our world! Rather than lament cancellation of plans, events, even work, take this time for self-reflection, healing, and evolution beyond fear.
Reflect on where you are/have been living, emotionally and vibrationally.

Sunday, February 9, 2020

Life's Transitions, Empowering YOU!

Back of man's head with many thoughts swirling "When your expecations keep pecking at your happiness, come back to present. Then, redirect your vantage point from your head to your heart.
Often inner strife is due to reality being far removed from what we wanted to happen or thought would happen ... the friendship you thought would be everlasting, a league of friends you vibe with, the optimal job of your dreams, a living arrangement that seemed like "the perfect fit". Why do we experience endings?

If you're like me, when you have a "good thing" you want it to last. This may rarely happen in the "real world". These transitions make sense when we understand that we EACH are on a journey of growth and expansion. Our evolution may be incompatible with our quest for stability and/or longevity of engagement with a person, place or situation.

We may see transitions as a dead end, when they are actually a type of soul-growth escalator!

Our expectations may be the only thing preventing our seeing potential. Rather than feeling forlorn when a transition arrives, try to move more quickly toward an eager anticipation that more and better are coming!

In any friendship (job, living arrangement), how you show up, your commitment, and your communication are key. But the other person (employer, landlord, lover) and their own vision, comfort, soul journey, expectations are also critical. Their side of the relationship/situation is not in your control, never was, never will be.

Moreover, their actions in ending WHAT IS may be part of a soul-growth journey your Higher Self set up! There are merely actors in your story ..

Things do not happen TO you; they are happening FOR you!

Self-blame and finger-pointing does nothing more than make you more miserable. Take a nice deep breath. Feel the air expand your chest. Imagine your nose is on your chest and breathe for a couple of minutes with your awareness, there in your heart space. Peace is always just a breath away ... not in your head, but in your heart!

Transitions may be fluid for some peeps. Yet, for those who have grown up feeling they're not enough, experiencing abandonment by one or both parents, only receiving love and acknowledgement on a conditional basis, etc., these "break up" events can feel devastating.

Know that you are loved beyond this space and time! You may be shifting timelines to embody a greater version of yourSelf. With trust and an openness to what comes next, we can make room for anticipation, even gratitude!

When we look, in retrospect, on major life events, relationship/job/home transitions, particularly those that were not expected, we can often see how they moved us forward to a stronger version of ourSelves. Yet, some people get stuck in the transition because of deep inner wounds ...

Find your joy in this moment

Sunday, December 15, 2019

When Grief Arrives during the Holidays

Feel love enfold you, encouraging you to LIVE! There is perhaps no better way to honor the love we've shared than to move forward, claiming our best possible life!

For some people, “losing a loved one” can put the brakes on living life and cloud the holidays with sadness. But what if that person has stepped aside FOR us to help us shift to another timeline, to find our inner strength, to grow?!? What if our being stuck is also holding THEM back? What if they are not LOST?

Death of the physical body is only “the end” if WE close that door to our continued connection.

Wednesday, November 20, 2019

The PRESENCE

chakra colors and swirling colors combine in this energy-in-form healing art creation ©Kristi Borst
"All is Well, All is Forgiven" ©2013 Kristi Borst

You have a Presence,
It's a power and connectedness
... YOUR True Self!

It's hard to find that Presence
in past-tense wrongs,
future fears, darkness.

Yet the Presence is so close
not in the heavens, but within ...
You help it exist.

In focusing on what feels not enough
You're looking through 'distorted
glass' of your own creation.

You remain stuck because
you've defined yourself
within an illusion.

Your seeing the illusion
is all it takes
for it to crumble.

You are THAT powerful.
Now that you have eyes
to see you can change!

As each sees their mis-creation,
steps forward in the Presence,
all vibration/matter/life is lifted.

You can/do/will change the world!

                      ~~~~~

Namaste ... I SEE you,
Kristi

 




Tuesday, July 16, 2019

These 7 Chakras Offer Insights for Your Improved Health and Happiness PLUS Gateways to Natural Healing

Chakra Healing Love denotes Kristi's love-based interpretation of healing energy for each of the seven major chakras.
This is one of my energy-in-form healing artwork pieces. It is available as a 12"x36" or 36"x12" print to use for self-balancing your chakras. You can view my artwork online HERE or visit The Enchanted Willow in Merrimac, MA feel my art in person and perhaps adopt a print or canvas!
Many times the past can bring clarity to what's happening now. Our decisions, even those made unconsciously, affect our path, our outlook, and even our physical wellness. This is especially true if we are carrying "junk in the trunk" or otherwise lugging an emotional backpack behind us!

If you are struggling with physical illness, particularly one which doctors and tests cannot explain, I invite you to look beyond the symptoms, look beyond our body because you are so much more than that! You are a composite of genetics, nature, nurture, mind, emotions, spirit, and ENERGY!

We have many CHAKRAS in our bodies; this energetic and spiritual system is part of the subtle, non-visible dimensions that run our bodies. The chakras are energy centers (in some ways similar to the meridians used in acupuncture). I personally "see" the chakras as a type of snap system ... how we, as spiritual beings/thought/consciousness, connect in with our physical bodies.

When these juncture points become blocked, the flow of life force energy within the body is hindered. Chakra clearing and balancing is an important part of maintaining and/or improving your health. A healing session focused on the chakras can provide emotional healing and release blocks within the body's natural healing mechanisms. If you're tired of feeling sick or "stuck" in some way, then opening your chakras may be just the revitalization you need.

Friday, April 19, 2019

Ways to Nurture Our Mother Earth

April 22, 2019, Is Our Tenth Annual "International Mother Earth Day"!

illustration of earth Gaia with her chakras, crystaline gridwork, flower of life, light language
On my Free Videos page, I offer a guided meditation for Connecting with Gaia, Our Mother Earth which might serve as a deepening to this message.

See and Celebrate Our Mother Earth

In 2009, the United Nations created "International Mother Earth Day". I love this more expansive naming of April 22 beyond "Earth Day",
"The Earth and its ecosystems are our home … It is necessary to promote harmony with nature and the Earth." The term Mother Earth is used because it "reflects the interdependence that exists among human beings, other living species and the planet we all inhabit".1

"International Mother Earth Day" It Is!

Many cultures around the globe celebrate the Earth as sustainer of all life here. Those who are sensitive to the energy and messages of/from the Earth share that she is craving our awareness and support! We can easily assist in big and small ways.

Monday, February 4, 2019

Four Ways to Find and Connect with Forgiveness

Two hands in red gloves forming a heart-shape with "Forgiveness" in the heart.

Where Does Forgiveness Come From?

Forgiveness reigns within the heart. It's not something we have to create, it's already there. We all have hearts, so forgiveness should be easy. Why is it so hard for many of us to forgive?

As children, we knew how to forgive and live from our heart space. Perhaps at some point it became too painful? Or, maybe once we got into a “mainstream school system” we learned to focus on the mind more than the heart?

I believe we experience more pain in this head-space, living separated from our heart-based selves. We tend to push pain out, away from ourselves. This is how we hurt one another. It is a cycle that can create a disparity between truth and Truth.

Saturday, December 22, 2018

In the Presence of Love

Love Is by Kristi Borst
caption from image ~ The more you stay in the space of love, the more you find yourself in happiness. Society/life/humanness lures us into a place that questions love's existence, that questioning pulls us away from love and love's embrace. We question, and that creates a resistance which reinforces the idea of separation from what we eternally are when we give up the resistance. L O V E is. See & heal your resistance ... and you've found an exit route from illusion! 

For many of us, peace is a dream. There are so many things that bother us, whether it's news of world happenings, things happening in our town, strife at work or home, and/or inner turmoil. We cannot change things external to us, until we have changed within. Otherwise we actually increase our lack of peace and resistance ... Awareness = The Power of Choice = The Power to Change!


I invite you to accept, for ever increasing moments each time you think of it, that the core of your essence is Love. From this understanding, we find the root back to love is within. It is not outside of you!

"Chasing the dream" is an all-too familiar quest for individuals in the western world.

Monday, November 12, 2018

Raising the Bar As We Shift

Have you heard about "The Shift"? I've been reading about the current lunar phases and hearing others say how intense the energies are. (We are affected by energies within our bodies, energies from our Earth, energies from our Moon, energies from the Sun, energies from our Galaxy, energies from beyond our Universe ... and so on.)

When I read about a solar flare, moon phase, etc.,

Tuesday, October 2, 2018

A Shift in Consciousness

Status quo does not yield change; conflict brings change. Many of those currently in the political arena (who society may deem as inappropriate) may actually be serving humanity and a massive consciousness Shift at this time. They are giving a voice and face to darkness, anger, judgment, disparity, self-servitude ... raising it from an unspoken undercurrent to a place in which it can be assessed by our public and personal consciousness.

When we are triggered, it's likely that heavy emotion is seeded in a long-ago story, written in illusion, not Truth. Something this "other" has said or done has poked us like a pin in a spot where we are holding that same vibration. If things make you angry, sad, etc., ask yourself "why?" "Where is this coming from?" "How do I walk through the world in this way?" "Is it a present behavior/belief?" "Is it an old behavior/belief I've not forgiven within myself?" See how you walk through the world similarly to this person and change.

Monday, September 10, 2018

Love Never Dies!

My client Elizabeth had to make the tough decision to let go of her sick 14-year-old border collie Sadie on Saturday night. We worked together in person this morning, clearing heavy emotions and finding guidance on what comes next.

Messages came through that may be of help for others in dealing with "loss" of not only furry but also human loves ...

Sunday, June 17, 2018

Eagle Messages ~ Don't be Deterred, Observe, Seize Your Opportunities

crows chase male eagle, inset eagle snags a fish ©getty images
Yesterday I saw a small bird chasing a female eagle. They passed directly overhead ... bird squawking and flapping violently as the eagle flew faster with little effort. This morning I saw a crow chasing the male eagle. The eagle flew to and perched in a nearby pine tree, the crow landing somewhat higher on the same tree. The crow left after a few minutes. The eagle stayed, and stayed, and stayed. I wanted to watch him fly; I waited a long time. Eventually, he took off, flying approximately 200 feet to catch a fish in the water in front of me.

Messages began to come in for me/you/Us. As I pondered the small birds chasing the larger birds, I was reminded of life's distractions and how sometimes we can be steered off course without even realizing where we went astray. Small things, over which we ultimately have total control, can derail us. Why? Perhaps because we underestimate ourSelves. We believe they can, so they do!

My mind shifted to a post I had seen on FB group just this past week: "Do you feel jobs are just here for distraction so we forget what we are really here for?" For many people, this is Truth. They do not realize their power. They do not recognize that every choice, even those without considering other choices, is made from our ultimate power of Free Choice. So, yes, for some people, jobs are a distraction and people get sucked into the "rat race" or "more is better" side trip.

I'm sure you've probably heard the expression "do the work you love and you'll never work a day in your life." I believe each of us has something unique we can offer to our world, something that is an expression of Self which brings joy not only to us but also to the collective. Take the time to find that thing. Leave your job behind and get compensated for expressing your joy/creativity/innovation/altruism/service.

Like the eagle who sat there in the tree for many, many minutes, we must take the time to look! The power of being the conscious observer of Self (conscious awareness) is an overlooked human power.  It's one of those treasures hidden from us in plain view. Until you look for your choices and options and opportunities, they might as well not exist.

Not getting waylaid by life's obstacles is a great message, but the scene spoke further!

The eagle turned the experience of being chased into one of power. He stood his ground, perched high in that tree. He was not affected by crow's stress/badgering. Perhaps the crow became frustrated that the eagle was non-responsive; he left. This happens in our lives, too. Once we reach the point at which external situations and factors do not ruffle our feathers, these things "magically" stop showing up in our lives!

Mr. Eagle perched, watched and ultimately waited for his opportunity to get back on course. Was that feeding his family and thereby feeding himself on many levels? Or was his concern totally self-centered on filling his own belly? Each of us must make the decision of our focus individually, but we make the world a better place when we include other in our goals.

Look at the things you feel are taking you away from (1) your peace, (2) your goals, (3) your service to others, (4) yourSelf! Take time to look. Perch for a moment. Ponder. Wait for opportunities. Ultimately see that you are POWERFUL when you are aware ... and the only thing that may squelch your potential to succeed is YOU! When you are looking behind you or projecting your focus into the future, you may miss what's right here ... the present.

Seize your power to be all you are here to be! Watch for messages along your path that gently try to get you back in touch with your power. If you need help seeing within and/or afar, call on me for a reading or healing session.

Love,
Kristi

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Wednesday, March 21, 2018

How Does Energy Healing Help Physical Pain and Disease?

I was recently asked by a healing-focused web group to answer these questions about my integrative (mind-body-spirit-emotions) esoteric healing abilities. How can Healing Resonance with Kristi Borst positively affect/heal physical ailments and mental turmoil presenting in another person, situated halfway around the globe? I hope the answers will help satisfy the mind's curiosity. Ultimately your mind-body-spirit seeks balance. I am graced with the ability to connect in, help restore equilibrium and offer the other "release that which no longer serves" our highest and best!

Q. How are you able to heal the physical, especially for individuals located halfway around the globe from you?

Monday, January 8, 2018

What Is Physical Pain Telling You About Your Emotions, Life Traumas, Fears?

We see ourselves largely as our bodies. Yet, I believe in many cases, the body is not the source of our dis-ease. Non-physical aspects of Self contribute to and detract from our wellness. This is why periodic "energy work" is beneficial! I help others understand what they are telling their bodies and what their bodies are telling them. Awareness = The Power of Choice = The Power to Change!

In offering group and individual mind-body-spirit-emotions healing sessions, I have been startled by the sometimes literal under-emotions presenting as pain and dis-ease in my clients: the jilted man who has "hardened his heart" and had a mild heart attack; the woman who is afraid to move forward fully into adulthood who is experiencing ankle problems; the woman raised to "keep your mouth shut" who suffered a persistent cough; the 20-something told to deny an incestuous rape experience whose spine had twisted under that lie.

It's a kind of "chicken and egg" scenario. Fortunately, once the non-physical component (energetic, spiritual, emotional) is released, the body is "free" to do what it was designed to do best ... Self Heal! These denser energies & emotions present as pain and/or immobility. Other clients have stored traumas and lack of power (particularly from childhood) in various body part. We must realize that dis-ease stored in bodily organs creates "rich soil" for disease!

These individuals (and many others) experienced "miraculous" shifts toward wellness & joy with our session work, releasing their emotional trauma and reconnecting to their inner peace. When spiritual, emotional and/or energetic blocks are released, our life force is free to flow with greater ease in, of, and through the physical form. Even those who have lived without major trauma, have found a lightness and greater sense of Presence with periodic energy healing and body work.

Saturday, December 16, 2017

How Far Would You Travel For Inner Peace?

This image came to me around this time in 2013, and I used it as my end-of-year facebook cover image. It's a play on the long-forgotten rear-view mirror statement "Objects Are Closer Than They May Appear." When we apply this spacial warning to our lives, it reflects a great untruth within our "reality". Why do we not see the closeness of our Inner Peace? Why must we struggle? When will we be happy? How can we thrive? A deepening of this visual has come through in recent days.

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Some Say "Plateau", I Say "Scenic Overlook"

Kristi on Devil's Bridge plateau in Sedona, AZ
We are well-aware of the negative connotations of "plateauing" when we're on a quest toward a goal. Something has happened and the formula we've been using is no longer yielding the results we are seeking. For some of us, the plateau becomes the destination, as we abandon or original goal or fall into some crevice of "I am not worthy". I am shown this is not the purpose of the plateau!

Some say "plateau", I say "scenic overlook" ...

Friday, August 25, 2017

New Earth


We live in an amazing time in which we may much more clearly observe and affect our path. We can uncover and heal patterns, behaviors, emotions, "stories" that have challenged us in untold numbers of realities. A key tool OR hindrance here is our Free Will. In nearly every moment, we are making a choice; for eons those choices have been unconscious, likely ruled by urges with no consciousness of the choices.

Yet the more we realize what we are deciding, the more choices we see ...

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Chasing a Song, Yet There's a Song Bird in Hand?

I have seen more than one client in relationship or career paralysis because they think, if they are not happy with their current situation, their only option is to leave and to start over. Our society has encouraged us to seek that brass ring ... bigger, better, more. But will that really bring you happiness? Or is that a just painful illusion?

Thursday, June 29, 2017

Healing ... an Inside Out Job

It is somewhat surprising to me that I haven't written any articles to date that mention "healing" in the title. I have been largely focused on writing pieces that help others more clearly see themselves. Yet over the last year through the lessons I have personally bumped up against, I have learned that we cannot show someone something they are not ready to see. Jumping this up a level ... You cannot unleash your own unlimited potential until you realize, at least on some level, that you are the one blocking its emergence.

What is your story? How are you not seeing yourself?

Sunday, June 18, 2017

What Are You Resisting?

It is in those moments that we resist "what is", that we feel pain. Sometimes these very things we resist are present is our life as our best teachers. Take a moment today and look for and at the things you are resisting. Perhaps it's the way another perceives you? Perhaps it's that something is not going "quite to plan" in your life? What's that thing that's "keeping you from being happy"? Perhaps in truth, it's you that's keeping yourself from being happy. Choose where you live, my friend!

A deepening of this message has been served up in my own life over the course of this Spring:

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

If Your Go-To Reaction Is "I Can't" or "I Have Never Been Able To", Where is The Space for Potential?

About eight months ago, I sought out and scheduled some self care ... a 1.5 to 2 hour session with a woman who offers "guidance toward greater soul mastery". This type of guidance (I like to call it providing a "soul window") is an integral part of what I offer others in healing sessions, but answers were not coming clearly to me for me.

I hoped to get insights about how my gifts and healing offerings could be better communicated. I felt I was swimming against the current, offering something life-changing yet which seemed invisible to many who seemed solely focused on drugs and invasive techniques. I was also processing my own sadness and feelings of rejection in the face of coming forward with my abilities. I was seeking support, guidance and understanding.

Tuesday, December 6, 2016

I Have Faith!


BE in that space of FA I T H in which all is well. Surrender unto it. BE. In doing so, you help lift not only yours but also the consciousness and vibration of the whole.

Sunday, November 20, 2016

No Time, No Room, No Need for the Pain!

The central theme of “Haven’t Got Time for the Pain” co-authored and sung by Carly Simon seems fitting as the synopsis of this sharing, clearing message. Wow. I loved that song when I was a sad and lonely teenager. I dreamed of that day when someone would love me to the depth that I wouldn’t have time for the pain. As with most things that bring us true freedom, it is an inside job!

Why do we have time for the pain? Why do we hold space for the pain?

Monday, October 3, 2016

Be Alert ... Your Life's Purpose May Come on the Wings of an Eagle

When You Are Sleeping, Sometimes It Takes a Special Messenger to Awaken You <3
In 2011, after 25 years as a sole proprietor of my one-woman ad agency, I started to wonder if this career was what I wanted to do for the rest of my adult life. I felt there was something more, something I needed to do, something more fulfilling. Yet I had no clue what that something was.

So, instead of focusing on the details (what, when, how) I focused on the feeling. I knew I wanted to help people. This had always been at the core of all of my work. I focused on how I would feel when I was helping others. At that time, I knew nothing of the Laws of Attraction and/or manifesting.

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Moving Forward Knowing We Shall Rise Above


"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to just try one more time." Thomas Edison

Many times when we encounter struggles, we are actually moving forward to bigger, better, happier ... but in order to arrive at that destination, we must keep on keepin' on!

Fears, hurts, regrets, even loved ones can tend to paralyze us within the struggle. We feel so terrible we may believe we cannot continue.

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Will We Ever See Eye-to-Eye?

This is one of my favorite photos that my sister-in-law captured at Joe's and my wedding in 1980. It captured a magical quality which was surely present that day. What it doesn't show you is that when I said "I do" I didn't believe that our marriage would last forever.

While I told myself I believed in happy endings, deep inside there was a wounded girl who did not; she believed the fairy tale would end. Somewhere from childhood to adulthood, she'd abandoned her dream of having two daughters.

Our love was solid, real, nurturing ... the best thing to ever happen to me! We renewed our marriage vows on our 10th anniversary and started our family two years later. We've been in a nurturing/harmonious marriage for nearly 36 years now, together 40 years this-coming September.

Spirit spoke to me when I met this man "he's The One", and fortunately neither of us (more specifically me) sabotaged that calling.

Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Facing Our Fears Is the Doorway to Greatness!

This-past Sunday as I was driving to Palm Sunday service, I received "Facing our fears is the doorway to greatness. Your fears are the key to unlock the next greater version of you." Then at service, the opening prayer included this passage from "Gethsemane" by Rev. Ed Townley.

"We may sometimes feel locked in spiritual paralysis, afraid of the unknown—and even afraid of our fear! But the fear is really a sign that we are feeling guided to step beyond our comfort zone. The choice is always between the anxiety in mortal mind and the loving certainty of spiritual Truth. When we choose to follow our Truth, we dissolve the paralysis and step forward with confidence and love." I knew this message needed to be shared!

Sunday, January 17, 2016

Allowing and Trusting the Ebb and Flow of Life ...


There's a definite ebb and flow to life. As I look out my window and see the snow that makes me want to stay inside, I think about how little time I spend indoors in the summer. Summer, I think, may be a time for us to expand, express, expend our light, reach and energy. 

Winter is a time for going within, seeing where we are going and assessing what shifts we may need to get on track. It's probably not coincidence that our New Year reflections also happen during this introspective period (I can almost hear the Snow Birds saying, I don't have to stay inside.) Perhaps it's really important for us to have the ebb and flow ... to take the time to renew our goals, our vision of ourselves, our vision of the world we are co-creating. To be with Self, to cozy our nest, to dream our dreams so we know where we are going to plant our seeds. 

Monday, December 28, 2015

Love Transcends Time and Physicality

You Are Not Alone ~ There is Much Love <3

Open yourself to the love of your "extended" family. When we limit ourselves to only experiencing what is in the physical realm, we close ourselves to unlimited possibilities, unlimited love. We experience separation ... but please know we are infinitely connected ... not only to one another here but to others we have loved throughout all times.

Like the sapling that relied on its tethers for support while developing its roots, there comes a time when we each must let go of the tethers that will inevitably hold us back.

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Taking Control of Your Life: 
Questioning What You THINK You Know About Yourself

[I had the opportunity to speak at several events this-past Fall. This article is an overview of that talk. It was printed in Inner Tapestry online magazine on October 27, 2015.]
 
This summer I had the pleasure of being with both of our young-adult daughters. They suggested we go see the new Pixar movie “Inside Out”. The story line is about a girl whose emotions “Joy”, “Fear”, “Anger”, “Sadness” and “Disgust” basically are running the show inside a control room inside the girl.

“Joy” is pretty much the leader until the family makes a cross-country move. There’s a power struggle of the emotions with an eventual emotional shutdown. Along the way, insights are provided into core memories, formation of values, etc. After the movie, our elder daughter shared that her friend, a young mother, felt the movie had created a way for her and her children to discuss emotions. The characters were so cute and recognizable; the children could talk about their own versions of “Joy”, “Fear”, “Anger”, “Sadness” and “Disgust”.

I really enjoyed the movie and am glad that this type of acknowledgement of the power of our emotions has been created. I’m sure many will benefit from reading beyond the amusement of the animation. The movie failed to convey that we, the human being with the emotions, don’t have to be the victim of our emotions. We have the ability to shift control up one level … from the position of the emotions controlling us to the position of us controlling our emotions. When we are able to do this, we go from being mere actors to being the playwrights, directors, set managers AND actors within, of, and through our lives. Awareness = The Power of Choice, The Power to Change.

Thursday, July 30, 2015

Turning "Why Me?" into "I AM"

Emerging to Love ©Kristi BOrst
Life can be very difficult and we can feel so overwhelmed when we sense a lack of control over our day-to-day and long-term experiences. If you're tired of living from this perspective, I'd love to share some tips for breaking free of what may be holding you back from joy and happiness. Please trust you are here to be in joy and thrive in this life! The tricky part is that the key to our happiness lies within and yet this fact seems to be hidden from plain view by where we have been taught to keep our focus.

For me, one of the first steps in shifting from that place of "why are bad things happening to me" was taking time to recognize when good things were happening. Being conscious of and grateful for the "little things", showed me that the things that seemed so wrong were just a fraction of my experience. Why was I focusing on the negative?

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

You Know My Name ... Not My Story

Kristi and Dad at Beaver Tail in Rhode Island, circa 1967
I can remember the first time I heard our teenage daughter say "you know my name, not my story". It triggered something deep within me when a part of me heard "she has a story of pain living inside her". I then realized it was just another vogue expression of the younger set, like "whatever" or "not my monkeys, not my circus" :) Living with teenagers can be quite educational!

Yet, there is some validity in this phrase for most of us. Truly, we rarely know what others, even those we love, are carrying as their "story".

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Expanding Beyond the Shell

image from besthomechefs.com

I am writing this article on Easter. Today, I saw the symbolic Easter Egg in a totally new light.

Friday, March 20, 2015

Release What You're Afraid Of ... Take Flight!

What are you afraid of? If you're like most people, your answer is most likely not "the things that go bump in the night". Without realizing it on a conscious level, many of us go for years fearing not failure, but success. We fear following our heart's pure urging and living BIG.

"What?", you may say.

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Perspective Reboot® with Kristi Borst ~ Pecha Kucha

No, this isn't one of my typical articles, yet it's powerful and requires no reading :) I hope you'll take the few minutes to watch and consider this.

I was thrilled to be included in a juried Pecha Kucha (20 slides, 20 seconds each) held on 11/20/14 at the River Tree Arts in Kennebunk, Maine. Rather than talk about my Energy-in-Form artwork, my focus was on sharing the simple truths and empowerment that have helped me move to a space of more joy-filled, effortless living. Here's a video for those of you who were unable to attend.

Friday, December 19, 2014

Peace and Joy are Found Within!

Kristi's artwork of a yule tree with inner and outer light
Each of us is LOVE and LIGHT at our core, and this is the space in which we can find an unlimited supply of Peace and Joy. Yes, there can be karmic debts and ancestral burdens as well as traumas in this lifetime which lead us to forget that true essence. But the fact remains,

Monday, November 24, 2014

Being Happier Without The Weight of our Own Expectations

Every day that I learn something is a great day from my perspective. Do you agree? I have just recently been able to see how our own character strengths can also be our weaknesses in our relationships with others. I can almost hear you saying "what?"

Friday, October 31, 2014

Making YOUR World a Better Place

I have previously shared my knowing that we are divine eternal beings having a human experience [Perspective Reboot® with Kristi Borst, April 20, 2014]. I see our physical body as a kind of space suit that is serving to adapt and host our eternal BEing for the environment of Earth. Yet from birth we are taught to focus almost exclusively on the physical body. That's changing as more and more Eastern philosophies and modalities come to the west (yoga, meditation, etc.). If you glean only one nugget out of this, please realize ... Our power lies not so much in our body, but in our soul/spirit.

If people need to "see it to believe it", quantum science/physics might be just "your thing". Quantum physics has begun to explain that which has been unexplainable and/or defies logic. [Quantum scientists/physicists work with miniscule particles, smaller than the electrons many of us were told as children were the smallest components of life.] The world has always worked this way ... science is just beginning to be able to formally observe and measure it.

Saturday, October 4, 2014

On the Wings of Angels ~ Know We are Fully Supported at All Times

Although I faced a potentially fatal fall, I find blessings in this experience! Thank you to my guardian angels and the knowing that I have more work to do ...

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Rising Above the Stories of Our Yesterdays


Kristi at approximately age 4 holding balloon. Her grandmother is opening a gift box containing a pocket book. A terrier also peers at gift.
[For some reason, during the Summer of 2017, this blog got over written with another entry. While this still holds a lot of the original content, I'm sure there are deepenings offered here over the original. It's all good!]

Honestly, I have experienced living within feelings of resentment, anger, hurt, abandonment, and betrayal seemingly due to a myriad of external influences. Yet, I have learned/found/embraced and now share a way of  another way of living that has allowed me to BE much happier.

Letting go of the negative has provided me the amazing side benefit of reconnecting with my inner gifts and healing self/others abilities I had forgotten existed.

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Two Sides to Every Coin


There are two sides to every coin, but they are both equally important and they are never in competition with one another. Together they are balance and harmony. It is only our perception and reception of the coin that determines whether we prefer HEADS or TAILS. Neither is positive; neither is negative.

How often do we assume something that is happening is "good" or "bad"? It's normal, right? It's how we've been raised.

Friday, June 27, 2014

I Don't Resonate With That ...

Still life I painted as a teen ~ "You need dark areas to show light."
Recently, on a segment of Perspective Reboot® with Kristi Borst1, I shared my perspective that our judgment of "another" is never really about them. This understanding was integral to my owning "what others think of you is none of your business." Imagine living without the affects of others' judgment upon you!?!

Saturday, May 31, 2014

With Animals' Assistance

In the last couple of years, I have realized not only our connectedness to one another as humans, but also our connectedness with ALL of life ... the animal and plant kingdoms, the Earth, the Universe, the Cosmos and beyond. When we have our "eyes" closed to the cues and messages from these Sources, we can feel like we're operating "in a vacuum". On the other hand, when we can expand our awareness and be like a child viewing life with curiosity and adventure, life becomes more fluid and we can feel much more supported.

I don't know when it happened, but at some point in the last 100 or so years of industrialization of our society, we learned to value technology over Nature. Yes, we've gained a lot in that time, but we have to realize it's been at a cost. The good news is that the support is still there, just awaiting our discovery, wonder and exploration.


This morning I was reflecting back on how animals' messages and appearances have helped awaken things on a soul level for me. The most memorable of these is my encounter with an American Bald Eagle while driving my car at 70 mph down the highway. Not wanting to hit him, I telepathically asked him to fly; he instantly began to take off toward my car. There was a moment in which the eagle was all I could see. In that instant, my life changed. It was subtle at first, but something was awakened that was waiting for this moment in space/time. The question for me now is not "was that eagle there for me?", it is "how many more subtle signs was I missing?"

Saturday, May 3, 2014

You Have and Will Continue to Make A Huge, Untold Difference in this World!

Source Wikimedia Commons
Remember when we were kids and ALL the Christmas lights would go out because one bulb was blown. You (or some adult) had to go through the string until the one blown bulb could be located and replaced. Tonight I was thinking about how important each of us is and the Christmas lights "back in the day" seemed like a wonderful analogy to our interdependence.

We are each here to be the light and the essence that only we can be. We are so interconnected, and each so important to the whole. Just as the one bulb can cause the others to remain unlit, the one replacement bulb enables the others to light. Just think for a moment about the ways that you have touched others' lives, both directly and indirectly.

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Is it LOVE or FEAR? What Will You See? What Will You Own?

The focus of my Perspective Reboot® with Kristi Borst radio segment today was "You Cannot Change The World, but When You Change the Way You See The World, The World Changes." So why is it that we think we know ourselves but we really don't? How can we get to a point in our lives and realize we really don't know what we want and who we are? As some point along our paths (or perhaps at most points along our paths) we have drifted from knowing we are Divine, magnificent, unlimited and amazing to becoming stuck in a game of "today we're good"; "today we're bad."

When we realize that much of our judgment toward ourselves and toward others is based in fear, we can step back unemotionally and assess if that concern is even still valid for us. It could just be an old 8-track looping through our minds. Many times it's an "I'm not good enough" or "I don't want to stand out" track that we really need to shelf. Yet, when we can bring thoughts and fears which are no longer serving us or protecting us into our conscious minds, we have amazing opportunities for growth. It is in that moment of conscious clarity that we become Creator of past, present and future.

During the show I illustrated this point by talking about my toes. For most of my adult life, I was ashamed of my toes. In fact, despite some genetic resemblance to other family members' feet, I thought my feet were ridiculous looking. For me, it was the second toe on my right foot. Longer than the toes beside it, it made me feel freakish when I was bare-footed or in sandals. All I could see when I looked at my foot was that one toe. And, like most things that we have assessed and cataloged, I never really looked my foot with open eyes again.


Sunday, April 20, 2014

Perspective Reboot® with Kristi Borst

This-past week I launched my debut segment of Perspective Reboot® with Kristi Borst on TransformationTalkRadio.com (links to LISTEN LIVE and PLAY archive are available on the "Radio and MP3s" page of my site). The focus of that first segment was "Seeing Ourselves As More Than a Physical Body" and in discussing that, I wound my way through my own journey and what is Perspective Reboot®?

Seeing myself as more than a body ... realizing I am an eternal Divine aspect of Source Energy having a human experience was a cornerstone in my own personal expansion. It was one of my earliest and largest steps in seeing myself beyond the roles and boundaries which had contained my life rather than allowed me to be all that I can currently express. It was critical in fact in my journey back to Self and what I share as a Divine connection which enables others to quickly release physical and emotional pain.

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

You'll Always Win the Race When You Avoid Spin Outs

©Jim Garrahan

Do you ever feel like your life is out of control? Everywhere you look you find drama and struggle. Life is not easy. "Why me?" you ask. Perhaps it's a question of perspective. Are you keeping your "eye on the prize"? Or are you watching what everyone else is doing? Judging? Comparing? Basically, spinning out of control and, in the process, taking yourself out of the race.

I'd like to suggest that changing your focus from the struggles to the victories will results in your being much happier. How do I know ... I've experienced it myself!

Thursday, February 27, 2014

Life Is Meant to Be Savored ... YOU Are Worthy!

I recently had a birthday and my friends and family flooded my facebook page with birthday wishes. As the day progressed I literally felt as if I were in the middle of a birthday bash. I wanted to give something back ... to share the love I was feeling. I found a photo online of some beautiful cupcakes and placed this as the cover photo on my "wall". I invited everyone to take a cupcake.

It amazed me that more than one person said that they thought the cupcakes were too pretty to eat. These were not even REAL cupcakes, these were digital representations of cupcakes. I had offered them as a visual smörgåsbord, inviting my friends to, at a minimum, enjoy their colors and designs, but also thinking people might venture to explore what their taste and texture may be.

I, honestly, never expected that people would feel unworthy of this gift, because that is what I see at the core of this "that's too good for me" reaction. I see this sometimes in the intuitive healing work that I do ... an individual doesn't think they deserve to be well or happy.

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

That's a Wrap ...

I wish that each and every person realized the power that she/he holds within ... a power that's just waiting to be realized. Many times we are held captive not by outside forces, but by inner dialog which holds us down and keeps us small.

We truly hold the key to our own release from captivity.

Friday, January 10, 2014

Uniquely Perfect Snowflakes

Snowflakes ... I think perhaps everyone has heard that they are each uniquely perfect and individual in their expression of form. Yet each is merely frozen water. Unfortunately, when snowflakes are viewed with the "naked eye" their exquisite geometry is just a blur. When you look at snow that blankets the ground, you cannot see the beautiful intricacies of each flake nor the way the flakes are joining together. Such a shame, I am reflecting, as there is such a beautiful analogy in this example of snow.

We, too, are uniquely beautiful, multifaceted, and fascinating. Many times our human eyes cannot see the exquisite perfection in our BEingness! Yet, the blanket called "humanity" that we create together is mysteriously and intricately woven. I want to share how this dance we call "life" provides myriad opportunities to not only sparkle in our own unique brilliance, but to also influence and help others, as they influence and help us.