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Much of what seems so real in this physical dimension is not the entire Truth of who we are and/or what we can do. Over the last decade, I have allowed myself to both explore and expand beyond the physical, mental and emotional boundaries I thought were rigidly in place in this "reality". What I found was an aspect of Self that I had forgotten was there. I offer these wonderings and wanderings as an invitation to see beyond "what meets the eye", MRI (magnetic resonance imaging) and "why can't I?" in your life!

Read, ponder, explore the depths of yourself. Although our eyes focus outward, we are primarily here to see and change ourselves. If you want to go deeper in your healing and release more quickly, let's work together. These writings are not short ... but the world is full of insightful one-liners which haven't managed to fully communicate to and shift heart and soul. I remain ever hopeful ... Much love, Kristi

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Wednesday, November 23, 2022

Don't Pass Along Your Pain; Forgiving the Bully

Until we have peace, we will have pain. Consider any time you have lashed out at someone, or they have been mean to you. Pain was the likely catalyst, pain pushed outward (albeit unconsciously). That pain was given to another (hot potato!), and on and on! It's the opposite of "paying it forward" within our families, our companies, our communities, our world.

Pay it forward. Family tree type chart created with hearts

People who hurt others are typically in emotional or physical pain themselves. They may not be consciously TRYING to be mean or even understanding that there is a choice to behave otherwise. They do not have the tools, freedom, maturity, or perhaps the skills to even process, let alone heal their internal pain. They have no idea where their anger, depression, anxiety is rooted. It just IS. 

Understanding what we are passing along as generational or cultural pain is important. We are here to change the script! Awareness = The Power of Choice = The Power to Change!

In writing for UNMUTED VOICES, a collaborative book project in the woks, I've revisited many long-forgotten memories of grade school. My personal school bully stepped forward as an illustration for this blog.

One time, a couple of decades ago, while I was attending a high school reunion, my bully approached me. She was "gushing over me", telling me how much she always liked me and how nice I was. While we had been friendly in primary grades, she became a bully in junior high. 

Standing face-to-face as adults, I felt flabbergasted by her discourse! "Thank you, but you were very mean to me in junior high school," I said very peacefully. The words sprung from me without a thought, I'm sure from that girl who had been so confused to have a friend turn on her. She paused for a moment, perhaps retracing her experiences.

"Yes, I can see that! I probably was mean, and I'm sorry. My dad was doing things to my sisters and to me and it was pretty bad ..." I don't remember the rest of the conversation, but I totally remember that soft moment of understanding and forgiving her rage! The encounter heralded a healing for both of us.

People respond in different ways to emotional pain. Most swallow it, others immediately push it forward (hot potato), and others still hold it until they can no longer contain it ... then they explode. We are getting to a STRONGER more balanced place in which women can speak and men can be soft. BRAVO! How do we heal the pain that's been created along the way?

Understand that when people are acting the LEAST LOVABLE they are most in need of our unCONDITIONal love. [That is: LOVE without the CONDITION that you behave, or do this, or don't do that, or do it MY way or are perfect!] This is not a "get out of jail FREE" card nor a permission to abuse others, it's a way for us to understand and heal ourselves in the presence of pain being garnished about.

Have compassion for others' pain and don't agree to carry it forward! Forgive them as you forgive yourself, for we have all walked in these shoes! This is not about muting our pain, it's about releasing it to find the "peace that passes understanding" beneath, beyond, through, in spite of the pain! "In TIME, all Truths will be known!" [Dear Eternal Spirit ... when you leave THIS BODY you will understand the why's ... you have TIME. Join me in the peace of PATIENCE.]

The more we can choose to respond from love, the more love we get to experience. In many cases, we can heal the pain easily once we see the beLIEf in unworthiness, separation, or fear that hides behind it. If you have pain that you don't know how to resolve or even identify it, please reach out for one-to-one work with me. I will help you release what no longer serves you and our highest good!

We change the world as and through ourselves. On first glance, this can seem like a heavy task; yet the load is light. We need only change the one we are here to BE. We need only show up as love, and love is at our center; it is our Source. Heal your pain rather than passing it forward! Compassion, forgiveness, generosity, stewardship, LOVE!

We don't know what we don't know until we know we don't know it! Now we do ... Pay it forward today! I would love to know if and how this has touched your soul xo


Kristi Borst, PhD

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Thursday, June 9, 2022

Asking For What You Want and Need is Healthy

"asking for what we want or need is our healthier alternative to being hurt / blaming 'the other' for not providing ??IT! @healing resonance llc with kristi borst"e; on sunset image

Generations, cultures, peoples who deny their children's needs do not create stronger adults.

This is not at all about blame. "Parenthood doesn't come with a manual" and some of those parenting guides of the 20th Century and before were not heart-based. I remember repeatedly hearing "spare the rod, spoil the child." Other "experts" told new parents to let the baby cry itself to sleep.

As adults, we either continue what we have learned, or we see what didn't work for us and we change! I am grateful that some of us have said, "that's not how I choose to parent. I'm going to respond to my baby when she cries and when she's hungry. I'm going to be a loving, supportive part of my child's life. My child's childhood is going to be a treasured time of innocence." 

I grew up without a voice and without choices. When I started dating my husband (I was 18) I would agonize about my dinner choice, weighing whether the shrimp entrée would taste $2 better than chicken (for example). We decided to empower our children to make choices. When we couldn't give them what they thought they wanted, we made sure that, even if they didn't agree with the initial refusal, they were given other choices and the option to suggest something else. E.g., you cannot go to school with your flip flops because they don't protect your feet, but you can wear your sneakers, dress shoes, etc.

Many people I see in my Healing Resonance llc Perspective Reboot® sessions were not treasured as children. They did not feel safe, loved, enough, seen, heard, etc. Dystopian and dictatorship households may be in our past, but many of us still hold on to the wounds and dense energy from these regimes.

Friday, April 15, 2022

Seeing the Larger Picture and Healing AS and THROUGH LOVE

Until you see the whole picture you cannot see the whole picture. We literally cannot stand in the exact same place as another person, so we will never see from exactly the same perspective. 

Love will create positive change in our world; hate and aggression just continue the cycles we are here to transform. We cannot force someone else to open their eyes to compassion and love by bombarding them with hate and condemnation. Sometimes our focus on what that other person is doing is just our own ego's way of avoiding our own "inner work". We get so focused on "the crusade" that we forget the love that was in our hearts at its start. 

History will repeat itself until we find a different way to respond and treat one another. 

Monday, April 4, 2022

Are You Living The Life You Came Here to Express? ~ Release Your Hood!

An old man with hooded cape looks in wonder at a fairie performaing a ballet pose on his palm."Dancing Fairy" by Ed Gedrose

As eternal souls, consciousness, energy having a human experience on this beautiful planet, we hold and have access to infinite Knowledge. Through visions, messages, and healing deep-dives, God/Source/Spirit/The Universe has shown me a well-spring of timeless wisdom. 

I  know that as mere, even fragile newborns, we were aware of so much and yet unable to express it except as LOVE. Perhaps a soul-level recognition of this wisdom and Truths is an aspect of the somewhat universal appeal of babies!

Yet as individuals, we rush forward! We grow bigger, eagerly aiming for adulthood. We long to grow up; happily abandoning wonder, glee, non-physical "realities" we are told are "not real". We happily conform to expectations and limitations placed upon us, agreeing to live, express, embody a smaller and smaller essence of Truth and our soul signatures. We become more and more disconnected within to Truth, Love, Higher Guidance.

And yet, we came to bring and live Truth! We can to be this ONE that only we can be! This is why much of my work and self-expansion focuses on Inner Child Healing and Reconnection.

Monday, March 7, 2022

Change is at Hand ~ BE LOVE

Change is at hand ~ Drop your club and raise your wand ... Focus on our Highest and Best COLLECTIVE Outcomes! Embrace the positive, empowered energies of commUNITY. We are co-creating this world; let's do so with LOVE. cKristiBorst

Spirit shares "Change is at hand." Often change scares us; our primal selves may wish to carry a big club, When this happens, we have stepped back from our power and into fear. That was THEN, this is NOW. We are directing the change! 

It's so important to shift your fear to empowerment! More winners is always better than one, despite what we have been groomed to beLIEve. 

"Drop your club and raise your wand ... Focus on our Highest and Best COLLECTIVE Outcomes! Embrace the positive, empowered energies of commUNITY. We are co-creating this world; let's do so with LOVE!"

Saturday, February 12, 2022

Spiritual Rituals for Prosperity and Abundance

Visual Meditation Tool for Abundance and Propserity ©Kristi Borst

Do you equate money with prosperity and measure your prosperity by your financial position? You’re not alone. If money is your primary focus, you are missing several other yummy pieces of the prosperity pie!

Prosperity Pie:

Kristi's Prosperity Pie

Assessing and expanding your current definition of prosperity is an important first step in creating a more powerful spiritual practice for abundance! It’s natural for us to focus on money because so much of our physical world is valued and driven by money. Yet, money is only one aspect of prosperity.

Consider these aspects of prosperity and abundance in your life beyond the obvious housing, clothing, and food: Technology and mobility; health and happiness; freedom and choices; quality time; love and relationships; talents, service, ability to give; other (you decide).

Abundance IS – Make Note of It!

Some of these things are naturally ours in great abundance!

A great spiritual ritual that nurtures the awareness of abundance is keeping a daily gratitude journal. You don’t have to be a good writer; simple lists will do. After even a couple of days, you may be surprised at your growing sense of abundance!

This isn’t a life-long sentence. Doing this for a couple of weeks can shift your perspective away from lack!

Prosperity Affirmations:

Imagine the abundance and prosperity you’ve now recognized in your life as a platform beneath your feet!

Celebrate prosperity and abundance, not only for yourself but for everyone! I’m sharing a set of powerful affirmations to break the perceptions and patterns of self-limitation and lack.

You may call this a prayer but don’t reach outside of yourself for your power because it’s already there, breathing in your body, breathing in my body and connecting all living things.

Some call it The Universe, others Spirit, Source, or God. Integrate and celebrate your unique expression of that I AM Power because that is something only YOU can do! You are special, each is special, all are special!

At this point of infinity,
that currently holds my focus,
All is perfect, whole, and complete.

I AM one with the abundant flow
of prosperity which I easily attract.
All my needs and desires

are met before I even ask.