Chasing a Song, Yet There's a Song Bird in Hand?

I have seen more than one client in relationship or career paralysis because they think, if they are not happy with their current situation, their only option is to leave and to start over. Our society has encouraged us to seek that brass ring ... bigger, better, more. But will that really bring you happiness? Or is that a just painful illusion?

Healing ... an Inside Out Job

It is somewhat surprising to me that I haven't written any articles to date that mention "healing" in the title. I have been largely focused on writing pieces that help others more clearly see themselves. Yet over the last year through the lessons I have personally bumped up against, I have learned that we cannot show someone something they are not ready to see. Jumping this up a level ... You cannot unleash your own unlimited potential until you realize, at least on some level, that you are the one blocking its emergence.

What is your story? How are you not seeing yourself?

What Are You Resisting?

It is in those moments that we resist "what is", that we feel pain. Sometimes these very things we resist are present is our life as our best teachers. Take a moment today and look for and at the things you are resisting. Perhaps it's the way another perceives you? Perhaps it's that something is not going "quite to plan" in your life? What's that thing that's "keeping you from being happy"? Perhaps in truth, it's you that's keeping yourself from being happy. Choose where you live, my friend!

A deepening of this message has been served up in my own life over the course of this Spring:

If Your Go-To Reaction Is "I Can't" or "I Have Never Been Able To", Where is The Space for Potential?

About eight months ago, I sought out and scheduled some self care ... a 1.5 to 2 hour session with a woman who offers "guidance toward greater soul mastery". This type of guidance (I like to call it providing a "soul window") is an integral part of what I offer others in healing sessions, but answers were not coming clearly to me for me.

I hoped to get insights about how my gifts and healing offerings could be better communicated. I felt I was swimming against the current, offering something life-changing yet which seemed invisible to many who seemed solely focused on drugs and invasive techniques. I was also processing my own sadness and feelings of rejection in the face of coming forward with my abilities. I was seeking support, guidance and understanding.

I Have Faith!

 

BE in that space of FA I T H in which all is well. Surrender unto it. BE. In doing so, you help lift not only yours but also the consciousness and vibration of the whole.

No Time, No Room, No Need for the Pain!

The central theme of “Haven’t Got Time for the Pain” co-authored and sung by Carly Simon seems fitting as the synopsis of this sharing, clearing message. Wow. I loved that song when I was a sad and lonely teenager. I dreamed of that day when someone would love me to the depth that I wouldn’t have time for the pain. As with most things that bring us true freedom, it is an inside job!

Why do we have time for the pain? Why do we hold space for the pain?

Be Alert ... Your Life's Purpose May Come on the Wings of an Eagle

When You Are Sleeping, Sometimes It Takes a Special Messenger to Awaken You <3

In 2010, after 25 years as a sole proprietor of my one-woman ad agency, I started to wonder if this career was what I wanted to do for the rest of my adult life. I felt there was something more, something I needed to do, something more fulfilling. Yet I had no clue what that something was.

So, instead of focusing on the details (what, when, how) I focused on the feeling. I knew I wanted to help people. This had always been at the core of all of my work. I focused on how I would feel when I was helping others. At that time, I knew nothing of the Laws of Attraction and/or manifesting.

Moving Forward Knowing We Shall Rise Above

"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to just try one more time." Thomas Edison

Many times when we encounter struggles, we are actually moving forward to bigger, better, happier ... but in order to arrive at that destination, we must keep on keepin' on!

Fears, hurts, regrets, even loved ones can tend to paralyze us within the struggle. We feel so terrible we may believe we cannot continue.

Will We Ever See Eye To Eye?

This is one of my favorite photos that my sister-in-law captured at Joe's and my wedding in 1980. It captured a magical quality which was surely present that day. What it doesn't show you is that when I said "I do" I didn't believe that our marriage would last forever.

While I told myself I believed in happy endings, deep inside there was a wounded girl who did not; she believed the fairy tale would end. Somewhere from childhood to adulthood, she'd abandoned her dream of having two daughters.

Our love was solid, real, nurturing ... the best thing to ever happen to me! We renewed our marriage vows on our 10th anniversary and started our family two years later. We've been in a nurturing/harmonious marriage for nearly 36 years now, together 40 years this-coming September.

Spirit spoke to me when I met this man "he's The One", and fortunately neither of us (more specifically me) sabotaged that calling.

Facing Our Fears Is the Doorway to Greatness!

This-past Sunday as I was driving to Palm Sunday service, I received "Facing our fears is the doorway to greatness. Your fears are the key to unlock the next greater version of you." Then at service, the opening prayer included this passage from "Gethsemane" by Rev. Ed Townley.

"We may sometimes feel locked in spiritual paralysis, afraid of the unknown—and even afraid of our fear! But the fear is really a sign that we are feeling guided to step beyond our comfort zone. The choice is always between the anxiety in mortal mind and the loving certainty of spiritual Truth. When we choose to follow our Truth, we dissolve the paralysis and step forward with confidence and love." I knew this message needed to be shared!

Allowing and Trusting the Ebb and Flow of Life ...

There's a definite ebb and flow to life. As I look out my window and see the snow that makes me want to stay inside, I think about how little time I spend indoors in the summer. Summer, I think, may be a time for us to expand, express, expend our light, reach and energy. 

Winter is a time for going within, seeing where we are going and assessing what shifts we may need to get on track. It's probably not coincidence that our New Year reflections also happen during this introspective period (I can almost hear the Snow Birds saying, I don't have to stay inside.) Perhaps it's really important for us to have the ebb and flow ... to take the time to renew our goals, our vision of ourselves, our vision of the world we are co-creating. To be with Self, to cozy our nest, to dream our dreams so we know where we are going to plant our seeds. 

Love Transcends Time and Physicality

Open yourself to the love of your "extended" family. When we limit ourselves to only experiencing what is in the physical realm, we close ourselves to unlimited possibilities, unlimited love. We experience separation ... but please know we are infinitely connected ... not only to one another here but to others we have loved throughout all times.

Like the sapling that relied on its tethers for support while developing its roots, there comes a time when we each must let go of the tethers that will inevitably hold us back.

Taking Control of Your Life: Questioning What You THINK You Know About Yourself

[I had the opportunity to speak at several events this-past Fall. This article is an overview of that talk. It was printed in Inner Tapestry online magazine on October 27, 2015.]

 

This summer I had the pleasure of being with both of our young-adult daughters. They suggested we go see the new Pixar movie “Inside Out”. The story line is about a girl whose emotions “Joy”, “Fear”, “Anger”, “Sadness” and “Disgust” basically are running the show inside a control room inside the girl.

“Joy” is pretty much the leader until the family makes a cross-country move. There’s a power struggle of the emotions with an eventual emotional shutdown. Along the way, insights are provided into core memories, formation of values, etc. After the movie, our elder daughter shared that her friend, a young mother, felt the movie had created a way for her and her children to discuss emotions. The characters were so cute and recognizable; the children could talk about their own versions of “Joy”, “Fear”, “Anger”, “Sadness” and “Disgust”.

I really enjoyed the movie and am glad that this type of acknowledgement of the power of our emotions has been created. I’m sure many will benefit from reading beyond the amusement of the animation. The movie failed to convey that we, the human being with the emotions, don’t have to be the victim of our emotions. We have the ability to shift control up one level … from the position of the emotions controlling us to the position of us controlling our emotions. When we are able to do this, we go from being mere actors to being the playwrights, directors, set managers AND actors within, of, and through our lives. Awareness = The Power of Choice, The Power to Change.

Turning "Why Me?" into "I AM"

Life can be very difficult and we can feel so overwhelmed when we sense a lack of control over our day-to-day and long-term experiences. If you're tired of living from this perspective, I'd love to share some tips for breaking free of what may be holding you back from joy and happiness. Please trust you are here to be in joy and thrive in this life! The tricky part is that the key to our happiness lies within and yet this fact seems to be hidden from plain view by where we have been taught to keep our focus.

For me, one of the first steps in shifting from that place of "why are bad things happening to me" was taking time to recognize when good things were happening. Being conscious of and grateful for the "little things", showed me that the things that seemed so wrong were just a fraction of my experience. Why was I focusing on the negative?

You Know My Name ... Not My Story

I can remember the first time I heard our teenage daughter say "you know my name, not my story". It triggered something deep within me when a part of me heard "she has a story of pain living inside her". I then realized it was just another vogue expression of the younger set, like "whatever" or "not my monkeys, not my circus" :) Living with teenagers can be quite educational!

Yet, there is some validity in this phrase for most of us. Truly, we rarely know what others, even those we love, are carrying as their "story".

Expanding Beyond Perceived Limitations

image from besthomechefs.com

I am writing this article on Easter. Today, I saw the symbolic Easter Egg in a totally new light.

Release What You're Afraid Of ... Take Flight!

What are you afraid of? If you're like most people, your answer is most likely not "the things that go bump in the night". Without realizing it on a conscious level, many of us go for years fearing not failure, but success. We fear following our heart's pure urging and living BIG.

"What?", you may say.

Perspective Reboot® with Kristi Borst ~ Pecha Kucha

No, this isn't one of my typical articles, yet it's powerful and requires no reading :) I hope you'll take the few minutes to watch and consider this.

I was thrilled to be included in a juried Pecha Kucha (20 slides, 20 seconds each) held on 11/20/14 at the River Tree Arts in Kennebunk, Maine. Rather than talk about my Energy-in-Form artwork, my focus was on sharing the simple truths and empowerment that have helped me move to a space of more joy-filled, effortless living. Here's a video for those of you who were unable to attend.

Peace and Joy are Found Within!

Each of us is LOVE and LIGHT at our core, and this is the space in which we can find an unlimited supply of Peace and Joy. Yes, there can be karmic debts and ancestral burdens as well as traumas in this lifetime which lead us to forget that true essence. But the fact remains,

Being Happier Without The Weight of our Own Expectations

Every day that I learn something is a great day from my perspective. Do you agree? I have just recently been able to see how our own character strengths can also be our weaknesses in our relationships with others. I can almost hear you saying "what?"